Mastery Over Anger
An Information Packed Eight Lesson Course Designed to help the student learn to use anger constructively: to resolve conflicts rather than create them; to love, nurture and care for those they love rather than hurt them.

In eight lessons, the author provides students the keys to stop angry outbursts; how to get below their anger into their real, intense emotions underlying the anger; how to release their negative emotions; how to examine the injustices in their life that gave rise to these negative emotions; and, how to resolve old injustices, improve communication, reconcile wounded relationships, and restore family harmony.

The volume closes with a comparison of frequently used, ineffective, "dirty-fighting" techniques and a proven, dynamic, Ten Step Approach to Effective Conflict Resolution. Past students have said that this lesson alone was worth far more than the cost of the entire course.

Lesson Outline:

I Introduction
1. Understanding Violence: Expressive vs. Instrumental
2. The Cycle of Violence
3. Understanding Relationship Abuse: Power & Control Issues
4. Understanding Anger: A Motivation to Correct Injustices
5. Beneath the Anger: Understanding Our Emotions
6. Releasing Negative Emotions
7. Reconciling Past Injustices
8. Conflict-Resolution vs. Dirty-Fighting Techniques

Course Author: James V. Potter, Ph. D.
Dr. Potter has served as a faculty or adjunct faculty member of several external study colleges and universities. He is a leader in online counseling, distance learning instruction, and student mentoring. Dr. Potter is a member of the World Association of Online Educators, President of Jubilee Enterprises, and CEO of AFS Family Skills Institute and AFS Publishing Company. Dr. Potter and his wife, Paula, are certified clinical pastoral counselors, operating community-based, Christian counseling centers in Hawaii and California for over two decades. They have specialized in the counseling of families at-risk, addicts, substance abusers and addicts, and criminal-justice offenders, and counseling perpetrators victims of family abuse and violence.


Assertiveness, Individuation & Autonomy
(formerly Assertiveness & Self-ownership)

Is a Faith-based Assertiveness Training Manual that has been used effectively in the workplace, in family therapy, anger-management and domestic violence abatement programs, in recovery programs and in survivor counseling.

People who lack assertiveness tend to be either very passive, quite aggressive, or a combination thereof, termed passive-aggressive.

Ask yourself these questions:
Have you ever said yes to another's request when you'd rather say no?
Do you feel like others owe you certain help, favors, love, etc., or that you owe these to others?
Do you ever feel like your partner is trying to control you?
Do you sometimes feel trapped, possessed and/or dominated?
Do you ever feel like you're being treated like a piece of furniture or a tool in your relationships, rather than as a unique child of God?
Do you ever tell little "white lies" or avoid answering someone to avoid conflict?

If your answer to any of these questions was yes, you lack assertiveness and will benefit from this information packed, nine lessson assertiveness training manual.
It will change your life. God desires to enjoy relationship with us, not ownership of us. And, our relationship with God should serve as the model for all our relationships.

Lesson Outline:
These nine information packed lessons that will help guide you through the journey from being passive. aggressive, or passive-aggressive; to being assertive in your communication and behavior.
I. Introduction
1. Understanding Assertiveness
2. Conflict De-escalation Skills
3. Saying "NO" Comfortably & Effectively
4. Self-ownership & Self-denial
5. Telling Your Self the Truth
6. Telling Your Partner the Truth
7. Developing Transparency
8. Truth Talk
9. Self-talk & Self-control


Course Author:
James V. Potter, Ph. D.

Dr. Potter has served as a faculty or adjunct faculty member of several
external study colleges and universities. He is a leader in online
counseling, distance learning instruction, and student mentoring. Dr.
Potter is a member of the World Association of Online Educators,
President of Jubilee Enterprises, and CEO of AFS Family Skills
Institute and AFS Publishing Company. Dr. Potter and his wife, Paula,
are certified clinical pastoral counselors, operating community-based,
Christian counseling centers in Hawaii and California for over two
decades. They have specialized in the counseling of families at-risk,
addicts, substance abusers and addicts, and criminal-justice offenders,
and counseling perpetrators victims of family abuse and violence.


Conquering Codependency

formerly
Codependency to Self-Identity


Codependency has aptly been called the "common cold" of relationships. It is not only associated with all addictions and obsessive-compulsive disorders, but, is in many ways, an addiction disorder in its own right: an addiction to pathological relationships, acceptance and approval.


How do I know if I'm a Codependent?
Codependents freequeently feel like they are "walking on egg-shells" around those they love in order to avoid arguments.

They believe that their partner's emotions (i.e., anger, sadness, depression, etc.), affect, or even control, their own emotional state of being.

They tend to have trouble knowing where their personal boundaries end and another person's boundaries begin.

They frequently lack healthy personal boundaries, having few at all, or perhaps having such rigid boundaries that they easily offend others.

They tend to focus on other people's negative characteristics and traits, rather than the positive ones.

They tend to fall in love (or lust) easily, demand total trust but have difficulty trusting others.

They misunderstand relationship dynamics and often fear long-term commitment.

Many codepependents have difficulty surrendering their lives to God.


Codependency to Self-identity is a Faith-based Codependency Recovery Manual that will provide you with the keys necessary to find freedom from codependency and facilitate the development of a healthy self-identity.


Chapter Outline:

I. Introduction

1. Self-identity & Self-esteem

2. Self-identity vs. Codependency

3. Major Issues in Codependency

4. Shame & Codependency: Roots of Addiction

5. Codependent Family Roles

6. Checking your Personal Boundaries

7. Developing Healthy Boundaries

8. Tracking Your Recovery: The Road out of Codependency

9. Spiritual Awakening: Letting go of Boundaries & Limits


Course Author: James V. Potter, Ph. D.

Dr. Potter has served as a faculty or adjunct faculty member of several external study colleges and universities. He is a leader in online counseling, distance learning instruction, and student mentoring. Dr. Potter is a member of the World Association of Online Educators, President of Jubilee Enterprises, and CEO of AFS Family Skills Institute and AFS Publishing Company. Dr. Potter and his wife, Paula, are certified clinical pastoral counselors, operating community-based, Christian counseling centers in Hawaii and California for over two decades. They have specialized in the counseling of families at-risk, addicts, substance abusers and addicts, and criminal-justice offenders, and counseling perpetrators victims of family abuse and violence.







Welcome.

All certifications for the training programs offered by AFS Family Skills Institute are granted by the American Association of Christian Therapists (AACT).

Certification requires either:
  • Sucessful completion of the three courses: "Mastery Over Anger," "Autonomy through Assertiveness," and "Conquering Codependency," earning a grade of not less than 60% on any one lesson and not less than 75% cumulative on all lessons in the three courses, including the personal application questions, assignments and quizzes, and
  • Successful completion of a pre-approved practicum. Or.
  • Successsful completion of a similar Domestic Violence Specialist/Facilitator/Counselor training program and successfully passing the pre-certification Domestic Violence Specialist I examination, and successfully completing a pre-approved practicum. Or,
  • Providing evidence satisfactory to the board of prior training and experience equivalent to completion of the referenced courses and practicum, and
  • Successfully challenging the precertification Domestic Violence Specialist I examination.
  • Applying for certification to the American Association of Christian Therapists (AACT) and fulfilling all certification requirements speficied by AACT, including the payment of association membership and certification fees.
The section, "Details for becoming a Certified Domestic Violence Specialist I" provides detailed AACT requirements for certification as a Domestic Violence Specialist